When the Wounds Began at Home

The wounds that shaped us often started in the place that was meant to feel the safest—home.

Maybe your childhood was filled with unspoken expectations, harsh words, silence that screamed, or affection that had conditions. Maybe you were the helper, the peacemaker, the “good girl” who carried everyone else’s burdens while yours were overlooked. Maybe you learned early on that love could be withdrawn, approval had to be earned, and your voice didn’t carry much weight.

That kind of pain doesn’t stay neatly tucked in the past. It leaks into our confidence, our relationships, our parenting, our view of God… and especially, our view of ourselves.

I know what it’s like to carry the ache of feeling not enough—not lovable enough, not obedient enough, not “good Christian girl” enough. I also know what it’s like to live under the constant hum of fear… fear of making someone upset, fear of rejection, fear that if you don’t perform perfectly, you’ll be abandoned emotionally or spiritually.

If that’s you, friend—you are not alone.

The truth is: what happened to you was not your fault. But what you believe about yourself because of it can be healed. And that’s what this space is for.

Stains and Grace was created for women just like us. Women who love Jesus but still carry bruises from their childhood. Women who are tired of pretending it doesn’t hurt anymore. Women who want to break cycles, speak life into their own daughters, and rediscover who they really are in the eyes of a loving God—not who shame or fear told them to be.

You don’t have to keep performing for affection.
You don’t have to carry their voices in your head anymore.
And you don’t have to be perfect to be deeply, unconditionally loved.

In the weeks to come, we’ll explore healing, identity, boundaries, and restoration from a place of truth and grace. This journey isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about letting Jesus meet you in the places you were broken and reminding you: you’ve always been worthy of love.

We are breaking generational patterns.
We are becoming the safe place we never had.
And we are reclaiming what shame tried to steal.

I’m so honored to walk this with you.

With love and healing hope,
Jamie Lynn
Founder, Stains and Grace